BONUS EPISODE: Let’s Talk Relationships with Dave Oancea
In this episode:
Christina and Dave Oancea talk all things relationships. (BTW, don’t let Dave’s tough exterior fool you, there’s a big heart underneath his marketing persona and Birkin bags.) We’ll discuss must-have values in a partner, NOT SETTLING, why it’s sometimes better to be alone, hope for the unicorns and much, much more. Don’t miss this bonus episode with Dave Oancea.
Christina Lecuyer’s Bio:
Christina Lecuyer is a former Professional Golfer, a three-time reality television competitor, Confidence + Mindset Coach, Motivational Speaker, and Founder of Women with C.L.A.S.S. Mastermind, as well as Decide It’s Your Turn: Women’s Weekend. Christina’s mission in life is to empower people to fully live in their purpose, confidently and successfully!
Dave Oancea’s Bio:
Dave Oancea (aka “Vegas Dave”) is regarded as one of the elite sports handicappers of this era, from taking a $10,000 student loan to having set numerous records for payouts in sports betting.
Today, he is an acclaimed sports betting consultant, providing mentorship for clientele from all over the world, putting them in a prime position to do what Dave has done successfully in the past that is win at sports betting.
From what started with 5 players 4 years ago has now grown into a global business recognized worldwide.
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Full Episode Transcript: Let’s Talk Relationships with Dave Oancea
Christina: Hey, y’all welcome back to the Decide It’s Your Turn podcast. Today is a followup to an interview that I did with Vegas Dave. It was such a good show and after the mic was turned off, we started talking about relationships and Dave said, “Why don’t we do a podcast on talking about what men and women want in a partner, a successful relationship?”
And I was telling him that my husband and I have been together. 17 almost 18 years now. In your life, you said something like, “Do you have a fucking sister?”
And then we kind of started spouting off about what it takes to be in a committed relationship and what you’re looking for. And I kind of said to you, I was like, “Well, perhaps you’re not manifesting the right person.”
You’re like, “I don’t want that person.” And then we kind of went back and forth about what we were actually looking for. So, I think today will be really interesting going back and forth.
Dave: I agree, you know, I told you I’ve given up on finally finding a successful, ambitious woman. I don’t think they exist in Vegas.
And I told you before, I realize all the good ones are taken or they’re young or because no one’s taking them yet and I’m 44 and I don’t have time to deal with 24, 25-year-olds because I think they hit maturity at 28 to 32 and by then they either popped out a kid or someone else’s wifed them up.
I don’t think there’s any diamonds running around with no babies with money and success and good values.
Christina: Okay. So I definitely agree with one thing that you said, which was the fact that women definitely come into their own, like around that 27 to 32 range. I like, for me personally, 27, 28 was like my Holy rock bottom like, are we going to fucking change this ship? Or is it going to sail into the wrong way?
But one thing that I was thinking about is, let’s say I was single and I had this success I have now. And the ambition that I have now, I don’t necessarily think that I would ever pursue someone like you.
And here’s the reason why. I see you on social media, hanging around with women who are definitely not like me in most regards, which is the fact that they definitely love being in the spotlight. They definitely have looks to them. Let’s say they love to party. They love the attention and all the things.
Now don’t get me wrong. I like a good time, but Botox is the worst that I get. You know what I mean? So my thought process would be, I would never think that you would want a person like me because of the people that you constantly surround yourself with.
Dave: So I would say, I always tell people don’t prejudge. So when my documentary comes out, people don’t know that I live with my mom and dad. People don’t know that I value what I eat. Women don’t find men that have values that honor their mother and father that bought them a dream house, that eats his dinner at the dinner table. Six days a week takes off their shoes or the end of the house because that’s not content my audience wants to see. People don’t understand that Vegas Dave is just a character.
I will not date a girl that works at a nightclub. I won’t date a girl that does OnlyFans. I won’t date a girl that has no respect for their body, but for content purpose on the beach. Yeah. I’ll put a video of you with a Vegas Dave tattoo on your butt because that’s entertaining for them. That’s content that gets people to talk about me. So I understand that, but when the people talk to me, they’re like, “Holy shit, you’re not even that person.” I’m like, “Yeah, dude, it’s all marketing.”
So I understand why it’s that way but there’s a lot of people that have known me for years and they know the real me, but I understand where you’re coming from and I guess I did it to myself, but at the end of the day that’s why I’m so wealthy. It’s because of the content I produce and getting people to talk about me, but that’s just Vegas Dave.
It’s not Dave Oancea, the person talking to you now, so I understand where you’re coming from. But again, you can’t prejudge.
Christina: Yeah, no, totally for sure. And I do agree with that. That was one of the reasons why I even asked you to do this podcast because for the last few months that I’ve been following you, I’ve seen more of Dave Oancea.
I’ve seen the smoke and mirrors of what you’ve been able to do. I definitely respect it for sure.
But it’s hard because you are so much Vegas Dave and where else do people really get to see Dave Oancea?
Dave: I don’t let people in my private life anymore. I’m very protective of my family. I don’t go out to dinner with people. I don’t really speak to people because I’m so burnt out with people. I like to be alone.
So the thing with me is that I’m good with it because at the core, when I go to bed at night, I know I’m a good human, I know I’m doing the right thing, so I don’t care what other people think about me.
And I do believe, like you said, if it’s meant to be, like with Holly, not to bring in Holly’s name, but she took a lot of shit when she dated me from all over the press, but she loved me because she could see through like intelligent women can see it. So like 99% of the women would be scared, but those aren’t the women that I want because they don’t have the vision.
The 1% that are pretty and smart, but say, “Hey”, like you said, “This guy is smart. I can see what he’s doing. That’s not really him.” That’s the one person I want to attract. So maybe one out of every a hundred is going to see that. So that just takes time for me because someone with brains and vision and a marketing sense, will see what I’m doing.
“How can this guy live with his parents, eat with his parents honor and do all this nice stuff for charity and yeah, but yet be this monster online. It doesn’t make sense.” So some people don’t get it and I’m not trying to draw those people. I’m trying to draw people with 1% vision. This is wow. This is pretty brilliant.
Christina: Yeah. It’s, it’s really brilliant. I see it too. And it is so interesting. I couldn’t imagine what Holly received on the other end. I’m not saying neither you nor Holly are this like a Jesus walking on earth type of situation. And I don’t want to pretend like I am as well, but you know, even in the 24 hours that I have talked about you on my social media. Oh my God. It is just inundated with all the shit.
And if I did a video on this, because thank you for your information yesterday, but I did a video and I’m going to put it out on my Instagram, but I talked about how, yeah, in the moment it’s kind of scary. I even told my husband last night at dinner, I was like, “Holy fuck. Babe. I guarantee you, I have like a hundred comments on this post that I’ve done, where people are like, you are a scam, she’s a scam.” They’ve gone on my website and seen what I charged. They tried to book a call with me, like they went in depth for 24 hours.
And the funny thing about it is, is you have to sit back for a second at the end of the day. Absolutely. I could be completely wrong and I could get completely fucking blindsided by you in a few weeks. And this could be a really bad mistake, but at the end of the day, I truly believe that I am interviewing you because I do believe you are talking to people who want to be the 1%.
I think you can add a ton of value. I know that when I go to bed, I don’t feel bad because I believe that I’m doing the right thing.
Dave: Yeah. One thing about me, anybody’s podcasts I’ve been on, even Millionaire Matchmaker, most views, I’m polarizing. People love me and hate me, but you have to understand the people that are haters already miserable.
Number two, the fact that they would write to you and put it in writing just means not only are they haters, they’re also stupid because it’s proof and those aren’t the people that were trying to reach out to. So you have to understand why do people love me and hate me so much? And I’m great content because haters only hate on winners.
Haters don’t hate on losers. If I was a bum, no one would write shit. That’s how much impact I have. The sports betting industry is very competitive and I’m the King of it. Everyone wants to be me. The fact is, is that I share all my knowledge with people for free, because I know they’re not going to put the work in.
So I love the fact, and it was no surprise to me, I was gonna tell you when you said, “Oh my God, I got so many heaters at the DM.” I was just gonna say, just ignore it. This is a great thing. Because when people stop talking shit about me, that means I’m no longer successful and no longer breaking barriers.
So I smiled when you said that, but I’m immune to it. I don’t know what it’s like to wake up without people talking shit about me. I’m immune to it. The day they stop would be like the apocalypse. That means I’m broke and I’m a loser, so that’s good. Don’t respond to them. Let it build your algorithm.
And they’re listening right now anyways. So you just got more downloads.
Christina: Yeah. I love it so much because at the end of the day, like you said, you’re a good human, I’m a good human. We’ve all made mistakes and we rock on, but the main point of this podcast today was talking about relationships and you as a successful man who is at a point in time where, and we talked about this on the last podcast where sometimes when you are growing in life, you have to really get rid of certain people in your circle in order to find the best circle.
So if I am a woman, who’s looking for a man like you, a successful man who is a 1%, what are the characteristics in the one that you’re looking for?
Dave: So every relationship I’ve been in, I’ve learned something. Most of them don’t last more than a month because I get out when I see the red flags, we’ll talk about that later, about self-worth and not settling. So we’ll talk about that later, but now at 40 shit, I’m 44. I told you four values.
Number one. How do they treat their parents? How do they speak about their parents? If a woman can speak bad about her mother or father, especially her mother called her mom a bitch or loser. I’ve had that happen before, then I’m out. Because if you can talk negatively about the woman that brought you on this earth, that means you’re going to talk shit about me as soon as things go bad.
So how they respect and treat their parents.
Their ambition. Do they want more out of life? What time do they wake up? I will not date a woman – I wake up at four in the morning. I want my woman to be up by 6:00 AM. I don’t give a fuck if you’re – just get up. Maybe you’re making the bed. Maybe you’re working out.
You’re doing stuff. Checking emails. I don’t want a woman that sleeps in. I believe all successful people wake up early. They don’t sleep at double digit numbers. I want some of the ambition and drive. I don’t care if you’re figuring shit out. If you’re working at Starbucks for eight bucks an hour, I will support that, then rather you sleeping all day and doing an OnlyFans account to make easy money.
I want people to play the long-term game, not the short term game, because once I lose respect for you, it’s done.
Okay. Respect is key for me when I lose respect for women, it’s done. There’s no coming back. I think that’s why, I mean, I’ll never speak to Holly again because any girl that to me, a woman is a beautiful species.
You can be anything in the world. And the two most degrading things you could do is be a stripper or a prostitute or show your body part for money online.
And if you do any of those things, regardless of how tough times are right now, I lose respect for you because God blessed you with two eyes, two ears, one mouth, two legs. You can do shit, go shovel snow next door, go do a lemonade stand, but you’re too cool. So you’d rather show your body and sell it for money. So if you sell your body, photos or your body or anything like that for money, I lose respect for you and I’m done.
So I look for respect, ambition, values and how they treat their family.
Christina: I love it. Okay. So what is it besides sleeping in, what pisses you off about women?
Dave: Nowadays and self-entitlement. Some don’t even say thank you. You take them to a dinner, they didn’t say thank you. Some don’t even, listen, I know I’m going to pay the meal at least attempt to reach in your fucking purse. You’re going to pretend to pull out a card, even though you can’t afford a thousand dollar dinner, at least show that attempt, gratitude. Thank you.
You know what, “Dave? I can’t afford a thousand dollars dinner, but you know what, what’s your favorite meal? I’ll come and cook that for you” or, “You know what, Dave, let me get you a massage for 80 bucks at the local place because I know your neck is stiff.”
Something small as reciprocation. People that don’t reciprocate or appreciate or say thank you. I’m done. Because it’s only going to get worse and nowadays with self-entitlement cause guys encourage this stuff, guys just pay for shit. So even these girls that are like twos and threes, they think they’re tens in their heads because this loser paid for everything and they expect it.
So when they come up to a boss like me, they expect it and I’m just like, “Dude, get the fuck away from me.”
Christina: I have a question. Do you think you could ever date, perhaps a woman who may not be as successful as you, but do you believe that you could date a successful woman?
Because I surround myself with a lot of very successful women, I had a girlfriend yesterday say, “Does a woman’s success make a man uncomfortable?”
Dave: Not me. Number one, they’re never gonna make more money than me. But number two, where my mindset is, I’m a team player. Like that gives me a bigger hard-on than a set of implants.
So I would help my partner.
I would help my – Hey, this is like I helped you. “This is what you need to do to increase your business. This is how you have to market. This is what you have to do. This is the content. This is how you can invert and monetize.”
I would teach them. I would love for my partner to outproduce me. It’ll never happen, but I would help them and help them because that’s something I can respect and be proud of.
The guys that you hear about that are jealous of their partners, that they’re not really wealthy. They can probably make a couple hundred, four or 500,000 a year. You know, to me that’s good money, but it’s not great money. And so if a woman’s making more, then they get jealous. I’m making millions, I want to teach and inspire, that’s a turn-on for me.
So, no. You’re dealing with men that came into money but still are jealous and envious. They don’t have a good soul yet. They haven’t got that mind clarity yet. I was jealous years ago in my late twenties, early thirties, but now that I’m a grown man with true wealth. I would love to have a partner that woke up before me.
I would love for a partner that made more money than me in one day. That’d be fantastic. Find me that.
Christina: Yeah. You know, it’s because I’m thinking back about my husband in the beginning, when we first got together. I did some television shows and I played golf and a lot of guys thought that that is really, really cool.
And so many people used to say to him, “Are you intimidated by the fact that she beats you at golf.” And I’m sure there were moments where he was like… cause I did have a bit of spotlight and things like that, but it’s so interesting.
I always knew the real side the real side of him was I was like, “Fuck, I’m so lucky to have a guy who I can actually handle this.” But he always said, he’s like, “That’s her job. She should be better than me at golf. Like if she is building shit better than me, I might have an issue with it. But like really that’s her fucking job. So she should be good at it.”
Dave: And it comes down to security. If you’re insecure, that’ll never work, but I’m secure. I’m secure in who I am and my self worth. I’m a full supporter, I would love my partner to have a business. And if they listen to what I taught them, because what I teach you can not be taught in school it’s in my DNA, they’re going to blow the fuck up.
Christina: Would you date someone who had more of a corporate career?
Dave: Hey, yeah, I look for work ethic. If you’re waking up every day and going to work and fulfilling your responsibilities and not calling in sick and you’re working, God bless you. That’s fine.
Just have dinner ready at 6:00 PM. You know?
Christina: Oh my God!! Right there!
Dave: But I’ll pay for the groceries.
Christina: But what?
Dave: I’ll pay for the groceries, but no, like I said I don’t believe in the nine to five, but however, I believe in nine to five teaching you structure. Do that. That’s fine. I don’t need an entrepreneur.
Just have your own shit. I don’t care if you only make 60,000, like I always said, if I was to date a nine to fiver – I used to date nine to fivers at the nightclub from 9:00 PM to 5:00 AM.
Christina: Oh fuck.
Dave: But I always said if I don’t date an entrepreneur or something like that, it would be a nurse because a nurse works long hours and a nurse has a good heart.
A nurse will take care of you, which means she would take care of me. I have a lot of respect for nurses and most nurses are half Filipino, half white and I like half Filipino, half white. So a nurse or an entrepreneur. But at the end of the day, as long as they have the passion and they work hard. That’s all I care about.
Like have a purpose and work hard. That’s how you earn my respect.
Christina: Do you know what your love language is?
Christina: Oh, fuck Dave.
Dave: There’s a love language?
Christina: Oh my God, Dave. I cannot believe you don’t know this. Okay. So it’s called the five love languages. It’s a book –
Dave: Oh yeah, I’ve heard of that book.
Christina: But you can take the online test a hundred percent.
I’m sending you the link, you need to take it.
I make all of my clients actually take an Enneagram and a love language test. So my love language 100% is quality time. So if my husband were to bring me home, like a fucking Birkin bag, I’d be like, “Yay. Thanks babe. That’s so pretty.”
If my husband would call me from work and say, “Hey, do you want to go for lunch?” I’d be like, “Oh my God, I will hump you right now.” Because my love language is quality time. Like nothing is worth –
Dave: What are the five options?. I’ll tell you right now.
Christina: Okay. Perfect. Quality time.
Dave: For me with a partner? What read my love language if I was dating you or dating a female, correct?
Christina: My husband’s love language is words of affirmation. So he never really got a ton of words of affirmation. So I’m like, “Oh my God, babe. I’m so proud of you. Congratulations.”
Dave: Okay. Got it.
Christina: Acts of service, quality time, physical touch. A lot of guys are physical touch.
Dave: I don’t want physical touch.
Christina: Okay. Um, words of affirmation.
Christina: I don’t think I’m forgetting one.
Dave: I don’t need the words of affirmation because I already believe in myself.
Christina: Yeah. Acts of service, quality time, words of affirmation, physical…
Dave: Acts of service like what?,
Christina: Like doing things for you. So let’s say your girlfriend, you’re doing your sports stuff all day. You’re doing your research and let’s say your girlfriend goes, “Hey, babe. I know you’ve been working really hard today. I brought you a sandwich for lunch,” that kind of stuff.
You’d be like, Oh my God.
Dave: Yeah, I like the small things.
Christina: A lot of mothers are acts of service because like, they’re so overwhelmed that if their husband says, “Hey, let me pick up the kids from school.”
They’re like, “Oh my God, I fucking love you so much.”
Dave: Yeah, acts of service, quality time.
Christina: I can’t believe I’m fucking forgetting it. I’m on the spot.
Dave: Quality time is important too, but it’s like, they want the quality time for me because I’m the one that’s always busy and I don’t need the physical touch because I believe after a while I’m more attracted to their brains than their vagina, to be honest with you. I mean, sex is still important, but I need to be, once I lose the respect for their brains, that’s what keeps me hooked with them. So it’s not touch, I don’t need affirmation saying, “Oh, you’re great. You’re this, you’re that.”
Christina: Gifts is the other one.
Dave: I hate gifts because I don’t like celebrating birthdays or Christmas because I have everything I want. And I feel like if they give me a gift, I’ll do something like – I don’t like gifts.
It would just be acts of service, like little things, show appreciation and gratitude, like I told you. If you come to Cabo with me, just buy me a fucking taco, one taco for 99 cents.
And you’re going to get massages on the beach and be treated like a queen. You’re going to have thousand dollar dinners on the beaches, just – so yeah, absolutely acts of service.
Christina: Yeah, for sure. For sure. It’s like someone supporting you. And so when you’re thinking about your next partner, you know, one thing that you’ll probably want to think of is like, does this person want to help me in some regard. Do they want to make sure my day is going really well, because you even mentioned right now, like having dinner on the table to you. That would be like a fucking big love language because you’re so busy that that act of service, like going out of your way to make sure something is easier for you would be really important.
Dave: Yeah, but also I’m just such a realist that it’s hard for me to do that because if she’s like, “What can I do for Dave?” I’m like, “Don’t talk to me for 10 hours because I need silence.” And then if they bring a sandwich, like, “Dude, I’m fucking working.” So it’s, it’s different when I told you I’m a different breed.
So I can say I want that, but I don’t want to be bothered when I’m working. I don’t want anyone near me. I can’t hear music. I can’t hear a pin drop. I need silence. And if you call me to check on me, I lose my mind –
Christina: Okay, this is really cool. So my husband and I, we have this unwritten rule of if I text him or call him and he doesn’t pick up, I literally will not do it again until he calls me back unless I do it two times in a row. And that means it’s an emergency and he’ll step out of a meeting.
Here’s the thing I probably in 17 years done that four times, because I know like our key is like, “Holy fuck. Something bad is happening.” But besides that, I respect his time. Yesterday we were talking about something and I think it’s really important to say this for women out there who are listening.
I have understood from day one that my husband is who he is before we got together. Your spouse or whoever you decide to choose is going to have to know that you work 10 plus hours a day.
Dave: 10 more like 12. That’s a slow day.
Christina: So what’s the 14 hours on college fucking football, NFL, Saturday, whatever it is.
At the end of the day, that person is going to have to realize the lifestyle in which you are providing is not a nine to five fucking lifestyle. And I have known that from day one.
Dave: So two things I want to say, number one, the reason why you’re successful with your husband as you communicate there’s communication, you have a rule that has been broken that says, “Hey, you’re going to call me once.”
My ex would text me and write me paragraphs and paragraphs. And I’m like, “Dude, stop”. And we’d argue about that. So the fact that you communicate and communication is key. I don’t want you to do this because I’m working. And if you feel like I’m ignoring you, it doesn’t mean I don’t love you, it just means I’m focused at work.
So you communicated, which I think you probably didn’t say that stuff, but that’s why it works because communication is key. So I do agree that communication is key and that’s why it’s successful for you and your husband. You’re not blowing each other up on the phone.
Christina: But I think that that is learned, number one, too. And I think if you would have known your partner’s love language, where let’s say you do have three hours in the morning, and let’s say hers is maybe quality time, because your time is the most important thing. If you can say to her, “Hey, listen, the next seven days, I’m going to have to work 14 hours a day, but this coming Thursday, we can spend three hours together. Does that work?”
Dave: I’ve done that. I’ve done that with my ex and, but the thing is when you’re done being in love with them and you’re checked out, you don’t even want to spend those three hours.
Christina: Unconditional love is the bottom line where we’re going.
Dave: No matter what all busy I am. If I love you, I’m finding a way.
Dave: No matter what, if I love you, I don’t care. I’m finding a way. Cause you know? What if my mom and dad were sick, if my mom and dad says, “You know, dad is kind of lonely tonight,” I would find a way to go there, spend the night with them and talk to them and sacrifice my sleep. So I just never loved anyone like my mom and dad.
So I’m, you know, I don’t make excuses. I’m just a realist. So I’ve never really been in love. Cause my mom and daddy didn’t seem to be there. You know, so I never found a woman that made me jump like that.
Christina: Yeah. It’s unconditional love, right? Like that’s the underlying, unconditional love. My husband has said that because I’ve been a mess for a long time.
It was just the unconditional love that you just fucking suck it up for certain periods of time. But also, it’s work, too, like you and I were talking about yesterday. Right now, you don’t believe right now this time in your life, you have the desire to want to put in work, taking away from what you desire more right now, which is your career.
Dave: Yeah, like I said, yes. A relationship is a verb, it’s action. It takes action. And I’m not willing to put in, I haven’t been burned before. It’s just because I put in energy and shit and the girl just turned out to be a bum. But if it happens, it happens. I’m a giver. I’m somebody, whatever I do, I want to be the best at it. That’s why I don’t want children now. Why? Because I’d be a shitty father. My parents gave me everything. I’d be like, “Oh, I can’t take you to the baseball game because the game’s in overtime. Go over there, son.” I’d be a shitty father. I wouldn’t be able to take him to soccer, practice football practice, karate classes, or teach him math.
I don’t have time. Therefore, I don’t want a child because I don’t believe in bringing someone this earth that you can’t be the best for. And just like a girl, I just don’t have time because my career is number one right now. But if a girl came in and she had all the attributes, I’d have an open mind and to find a way to make it work.
But I don’t think they exist. I really don’t think they exist or if they do, they’re already taken.
Christina: Okay well again, like we said yesterday, you have to change your fucking mindset on that. You have a mindset like that is fucking exceptional and you can 100% create an exceptional woman, if you want it, because you’ve created your whole fucking career, which is pretty damn exceptional, you’re a percenter
Dave: I manifested it all.
Christina: Yeah. Hundred percent manifested that. So I think it’s just a matter of deciding just to cite this podcast, Decide It’s Your Turn, deciding you’re going to change the way that you view. Quit speaking that there isn’t those women, there’s seven fucking billion people on this planet. There is a fucking unicorn out there, like a hundred percent.
I have a question though. One of my guy friends said this to me. Does the fear of settling get in your way? Because he believes that he has a fear of settling. Dave: No, it doesn’t cross my mind. Cause I, because I’m not afraid to be alone. Those people are afraid to be alone. So that’s why it even crossed her mind.
All the girls hope, but it’s missing this, this and this, but okay. I’ll take her because they don’t want to be alone.
Christina: He is alone. He is alone. I think his fear is never making the commitment because he’s always afraid that there’s something better.
Dave: Everybody’s different. I know when I have a winning game, I know this game is gonna win. If I have a winning girl, then I know this is the winner. I’m not going out anywhere. So I don’t think the grass is greener. I don’t think the grass is green and another side, once the girl starts giving me red flags, like swearing at me for no reason, bad temper, being irresponsible, making bad choices. When I start seeing red flags, then I start thinking the grass is green on the other side, and I lose interest. But if the per the girl is doing all the right stuff, I’m not looking anywhere else because my time is the most important thing I can give someone, it doesn’t matter how much money I make, the fact that I’m going to sit down and have dinner with you and turn my phone upside down. That’s the most important thing I can give someone is my time. Cause I really don’t give it to anyone besides my parents and my dog, to be honest.
Christina: Yeah. So that would be like the game changer. So, you know, if you meet Dave and he fucking turns his phone over, wow. You must be something special. That’s for sure the truth.
So what do you think, wrap this thing up, like right now, if you were to have to manifest this perfect female into your life, how do you think you’re going to find her? If right now you have a tendency to want to be alone a lot, and you have the Vegas Dave persona online. That is very much not the ideal woman that you’re trying to manifest into your life.
Dave: Maybe from your podcasts.
Christina: I got a lot of girls that sent me messages yesterday and were like, “Oh my God, I’m successful. Who is this guy?”
Dave: So, like I said, I’m not looking, but if it was there, it was there. They just have to be a perfect match and worth my time. Like I said, I got to respect the person.
And like I said, I’ve dated beautiful women before and now I don’t need a 10. Girls that are tens are fucking headaches. They come with baggage. I don’t want a ten, I want like a seven and a half/eight, that’s pretty, that has a beautiful soul, a beautiful mind, drive ambition, respect for their family and respect for me, that’s more attractive than a 10 with fucking headaches. I’ll take that all day long. I don’t want the tens no more.
Christina: Well, you know what it could be like. I think that there’s a lot of guys who would consider their spouses that they actually have unconditional love for as a 10. And it’s not just the fact that they’re a “10” physique-wise, but you know, a 10 overall package. I would hope that my husband thinks that I’m a 10, some days he’s like, fuck, you’re luck you’re a six. I’ve been told that before, “You’re lucky or pretty.”
Dave: Because sometimes I believe someone’s heart is the end of the day. It doesn’t matter what you look like when you’re sixty or seventy and your tits are sagging the floor anyways. Where’s your heart at? Are you going to be loyal? Are you going to take care of me? Are we going to be honest? Because in today’s world, everyone cheats. I don’t cheat. I break up with the girl and say, “This is not going to work, whatever.” And it’s like, “Why’d you break up with her. You could have kept her on the side.” I’m not like every other guy.
I can’t kiss you and say, goodnight, I love you, babe. And then go fuck another girl, which most men do. I get the bad rep of rotating going through people. But it’s because I say, you know what? I communicate this, isn’t working out. I’m done. So they see me date someone else. And I look like this player, but in reality, I’m the good guy.
Because all these other guys are pretending to still love their partner and banging all these other girls on the side. And they’re actually cheating on them. I don’t believe in cheating. My parents have been married for 46 years. I believe in having one spouse, not cheating and never getting divorced. I’m old school raised. So that’s why I don’t last with people because when I see a red flag, I’m out. I don’t keep you on the side and bang you on the side and look for someone else. I’m done, I’m done and I move on and people don’t understand why I’m real, that blunt.
Christina: You know what though? I honestly, from a woman’s perspective, my opinion is just like everyone else’s. We all have them.
I actually totally respect that. It’s interesting. I grew up in the golf industry where I never really played golf, but I always worked at high-end country clubs. It’s weird. I’ve only had three boyfriends my whole entire life. My husband is one of them. So I’ve only been with three people my whole life.
And I grew up around the country club, the expensive country club mentality. I didn’t come from that, but I grew up around working in it and a lot of guys put their wives down and a lot of guys cheated on their wives. It was something that was almost made to be normal. And yet, I’ve never had a fear of that because I always had this belief that I could 100% be alone.
I really chose the person I wanted to be with. I never felt like I had to be with someone else. And I actually love what you’re saying here because I would a hundred percent agree if my husband came to me tomorrow and said, “Hey, I no longer love you.” And he broke up with me and two weeks later he was with someone else.
I would actually a hundred percent respect that more than the guy who’s, you know, pretending to love you and fucking four people on the side.
Dave: Well, truth, and I get the bad rap for doing that and they see what the new girl does. Just cause I’m with a girl doesn’t mean I’m sleeping with her.
I hang out with girls sometimes just to talk about business. That’s it. And it’s self perception. And again, I don’t deal with the haters. I ignore them. I just let them talk because the more they talk, the more traffic that I get. My followers are going through the roof right now. People love to hear what I have to say.
Love, as much as people hate me, out of a huge fan base that loves me and looks at me for inspiration. So it goes both ways. And it’s how you build a big brand. I love the rising figure.
Christina: Well, I have enjoyed it so much and I’ve told you that yesterday. I love that we did this again, and hopefully that there’s someone on my podcast, that’s going to hear it because I do know that there are a lot of unicorns out there like myself. I know that other women are probably going to hate this, but did you ever see the, I’m sure you did, the Crazy Hot Matrix?
Christina: Fuck off. You have never seen the Crazy Hot Matrix on Instagram or not on Instagram. It was a YouTube video maybe 10 years ago.
Christina: Google the Crazy Hot Matrix once this is over. I almost drove off the side of the road, I was laughing so hard and they talked about there’s unicorns and are you a 10 crazy or a 10 hot or all the things and yeah, it’s hilarious, but there’s a lot of truth to it.
At the same time, I am crazy a lot of the time. I’m decently attractive, but I’m decently crazy too. I think all women are, and it’s like the degree in which you can put up with and the degree in which you love them unconditionally. So I have enjoyed it so, so much. Hopefully we find you a unicorn here on this podcast.
Dave: Also for your female viewers to let them know that like how, I don’t think there’s any good women left, they might think there’s no good men left. I know other men like me that are successful in the same boat. So to give yours hope, too. I do know men, so if you’ve given up like me, don’t give up because I actually know men that had the same values as me, that work hard, that shared the same thought process.
So there are unicorns out there or successful men with values out there as well.
Christina: Perfect. I love it. And you are going to manifest that fucking unicorn and I cannot wait to meet her cause she’s going to be great. See you in 10 years.