How to Stop Putting Pressure on Yourself in 7 Simple Steps

Do you feel like you’re constantly under pressure? Do you feel like you can never catch a break? If so, you’re not alone. A lot of people feel this way, especially in today’s society.

Between our jobs, our friends, our family commitments, and the world around us, we’re feeling stress and pressure more than ever before. We are constantly being told that we need to be successful, and if we’re not, then we’re failing. So the question is: How do you stop putting pressure on yourself?

Thankfully, you can learn how to stop putting pressure on yourself. It takes time and effort, but it can be done. In this episode of the Decide It’s Your Turn™ Podcast, Christina discusses 7 simple steps that will help you stop putting pressure on yourself so you can live a happier life!

Step 1: Determine What’s Causing Your Stress

If “pressure” is on your mind — and in your Google searches — it might be time for a change! Pressure can pop up in a variety of ways in our lives. It’s important to take a few moments to really understand where you are experiencing pressure in your life. Once you know what is causing you to put unrealistic pressure on yourself, you can start to take action to remedy the situation.

More often than not, our chosen career is the number one source of stress in our lives. We’re constantly pressured to meet arbitrary deadlines, track performance and show value in some way or another. If you’re finding that your work-life is the source of your stress and unhappiness, it might be time to consider why you’re continuing down this path.

I’m not necessarily suggesting you need to find a new career, but am instead suggesting that you find better ways to improve your work-life balance. Perhaps that means asking for additional support at your 9-to-5 or if you’re a business owner, that might mean hiring a key employee to support your needs.

If work isn’t your main stressor, you’ll need to dig deep to understand what other sources of pressure could be present in your life that need to be changed. You might find that the pressure you are putting on yourself is actually due to perfectionism, which brings us to step number 2.

Step 2: Stop Trying to Be Perfect

There is a constant challenge that many individuals suffer from — which is the need to be perfect. Let’s get rid of this myth right now. Perfectionism is the killer of so many dreams! You can’t be perfect. Frankly, no one can. If you’re striving for perfection, you’re aiming at a moving target. So stop trying! You’ll feel 10x better about yourself when you finally give in to the idea that we all have off-days, we all make mistakes, and we’re all human. I guarantee it!

Instead of striving for perfection, try focusing on improvement. How can you do things better? What skills must you learn or improve to do a better job next time around? This is not only a healthier perspective, it also gives your mind something specific to focus on when things don’t go exactly your way.

Step 3: Set Realistic Goals for Yourself

If you’re constantly putting pressure on yourself to achieve unrealistic goals, it’s only going to lead to more stress. So, sit down and figure out what you realistically want to achieve in the short and long term. By doing this, you’ll be able to stop putting pressure on yourself and set realistic deadlines that you’ll be able to hold yourself accountable to hit.

Step 4: Know Your Strengths

Who are you — and what do you want? This is more than just a philosophical question. You have to know what you’re good at, what you enjoy doing, and who you want to be. Otherwise, when you’re struggling with something, you might be setting yourself up for failure or poor performance if it’s not your thing. Ask yourself why you’re putting pressure on yourself. If it’s not important or not your skill, delegate or just let it go.

When we put pressure on ourselves over a continuous period, we’re telling our mind that we can’t do it. We put limiting beliefs into our mind that aren’t true.

How to Stop Putting Pressure on Yourself in 7 Simple Steps

Step 5. Take Some Time for Yourself

If you want to learn how to stop pressuring yourself, one of the key things you have to realize is that the effects of pressure and stress are cumulative. If you live in a non-stop, high-stress environment — if you’re constantly putting pressure on yourself to do more and do better — the effects of that pressure will catch up to you. In other words, if you want to learn how to stop putting so much pressure on yourself, you need to change your life and your lifestyle.

When you’re feeling tired, overwhelmed and pressured, the number one thing you can do to combat these feelings is to do something that relaxes you. This is important! Make sure to schedule some time each week that is just for you. Whether it’s going for a walk, reading your favorite book, or taking a yoga class, find something that helps you relax and forget about your stressors.

Step 6. Stop the Comparison Game

Nowadays, we are surrounded by social media and the stereotypical “highlight reel” that can make anyone feel inadequate. Consume social media consciously and try to limit how often you are scrolling through each day. If you start to feel pressured after you spend time on social media, that might be a big indicator that you need to put your phone down!

Remember, you’re only seeing the good and perfect moments from someone’s life and 99% of the time you’re not seeing the ugly side of their life. Everyone struggles. Everyone has hardship. Don’t think for a second that you’re not living up to your potential because your life doesn’t look like someone’s Instagram-worthy, overly filtered newsfeed.

Step 7. Get Help So You Can Stop Putting Pressure On Yourself

If you find that you’re still struggling to cope with the amount of pressure you’re under, it may be time to seek professional help. Whether you need the help of a confidence coach to keep you accountable to your goals or a therapist that can help you work through your feelings and find better ways to manage your stress, there is absolutely no shame in seeking support.

Just like anything else, learning how to stop putting pressure on yourself is a skill. The good news is that, with practice, you can do it. So, there you have it! These are 7 simple steps that will help you stop putting pressure on yourself. Remember, it’s important to take things one step at a time. Don’t try to tackle everything at once. Just focus on one thing at a time, and eventually, you’ll start to see the stress melting away.

Thanks for reading. I hope this was helpful!

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