Quit Living for the Weekend

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If you dread Monday through Friday, this episode is for you. It is time to STOP LIVING FOR THE WEEKEND. Christina gives us a passionate episode about why you need to start making some decisions to make your life better TODAY. Vacations and weekends are nice, but creating a life of intention and purpose are WAY nicer! Give this a bonus mini a listen and share it with your friends!

Christina Lecuyer’s Bio:

Christina Lecuyer is a former Professional Golfer, a three-time reality television competitor, Confidence + Mindset Coach, Motivational Speaker, and Founder of Women with C.L.A.S.S. Mastermind, as well as Decide It’s Your Turn: Women’s Weekend. Christina’s mission in life is to empower people to fully live in their purpose, confidently and successfully!

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Full Episode Transcript for Quit Living for the Weekend: 

Christina: Hey y’all! Welcome back to the Decide It’s Your Turn podcast. Today it’s just me. There’s no guests. I wanted to talk about something that has had a ton of engagement on my social media in the past couple of years. And that is whenever I am away for the weekend or perhaps I’ve gone on vacation. I always post that I am just as excited to come home as I am for the weekend.  I think that it’s super interesting how much engagement this has because people are literally almost floored that I’m just as excited for either one. I love getting away. I love going to Mexico.  How this kind of came up is my husband and I jetted away to Phoenix for three days to escape three days of snow, where growing up in Canada, I’m used to literally nine months of snow, but three days was much too much for me. So we jetted off for the weekend and three days later, I posted that I was super excited to go home and so many people are confused by that. And I say so often I have created a life that I don’t need a vacation from and that kind of throws some light bulbs in people. They kind of go, holy shit, right? Is that not the goal?  The goal is never for me personally. And perhaps for you, since you’re listening to this podcast, and this is kind of the theme of deciding it’s your turn to create a life that you don’t need a fucking vacation from, right? But I don’t need to live for a weekend. My Mondays are usually just as awesome as my Fridays. And when I get away for three days, even if that getting away is a local hotel, it doesn’t need to be a five-star resort in Mexico for a vacation. I like the change of scenery. I always like to have something to do. My husband and I are very intentional. And let me repeat that word. We are very intentional about creating life experiences and not always do they cost money. We’ve always picked up, put a backpack in the car, throw some bottles of water and some protein bars, and we’ll go find hikes. And if we find a hotel that we want to stay at, or we want to come home, we’ll do that too.  But it’s not that we’re living to escape our reality. And I think so many people do that. In the United States, most people get one week of vacation and dear Lord that is what they live for is that one week to escape the reality. And I want the lesson here to be that your job is not to create a life that you’re looking forward to – only one week of escaping your reality.  Your job on this planet is to live a life that inspires others that makes you happy, that you’re passionate about, where you don’t feel that the only happiness or the only blessing or the only escape is one weekend a year, right? That’s the point, guys, we don’t want to always intentionally live for a Friday and think Monday is the worst day of the week. I have a client who considers every day a Monday. She freaking loves Mondays. I really love Mondays, too. My schedule is loaded with client calls on Mondays and Fridays. I don’t know why that happens, but my clients either love back-ending our calls on a Friday or front-loading our calls on a Monday. So my Mondays and Fridays look very, very similar.  Now that being said, my husband does have more of a traditional job. He is obviously a business owner and kind of an entrepreneur, pretty much an entrepreneur, but he has a Monday to Friday, have to go to the office most of the time-type schedule. I don’t really have that. However, we both don’t live for the weekends. My husband works Saturdays and Sundays sometimes. And you know, if we plan it ahead, he can take off on a Wednesday afternoon, whatever that looks like, but we don’t look to escape our lives.  Now, we both have bad days. I have shitty Saturdays. I have shitty Sundays. I have spectacular Tuesdays and Thursdays. It doesn’t matter the day of the week. It’s the life in which I am creating. It’s the life that I am creating that I don’t need to escape.  So my question to you today, or my thought to you today is how can you decide that you are going to live a life that you don’t need to escape from?  What do you need to implement in your life today so you’re not living for a Friday and thinking Monday is the worst day of the week. I love a Sunday. Sunday fun day is a great day for me. But that’s more of my relaxing day and my husband and I will go for a walk and probably eat some bad food and drink a mimosa and watch some sports if that’s on. That’s very intentional in my day of what I enjoy. But I don’t believe that the day of the week makes me happy. It’s the experience of life.  So what do you need to do to make a Monday and a Tuesday just as amazing as a Friday and Saturday? Are you intentional about creating a life that you don’t need to escape from?  So my question to you is what do you need to do on a daily basis? What do you need to do to make your home more like a vacation, find joy in every single day? There’s plenty of things to enjoy on a daily basis that don’t cost money. A lot of people say, “Well, that would be nice if I could escape away for a weekend.” You’re right. It’s fucking nice. And I’ve created a life and a business where I do have the flexibility to do that. And guess what? I’m a unicorn, but so are you. There’s nothing that I do that’s any different than what anyone else can do. I’m just willing to fucking do hard things and not quit. End of story. I didn’t come from financial success. I didn’t come from anything that makes me any different than you. I was just willing to keep going. I was just willing to say, fuck it. I’ll figure it out. And if I don’t quit, I’m not going to lose. And I’m also very intentional about planning a life that I want. A lot of people can look at my life and say, I’m extremely selfish and you know what? They’re probably fucking right in some regard, but I’m also very intentional about the life that I’ve created. I’ve never wanted kids. I can’t remember one day in my whole entire life where I said, “Maybe I want to be a mom.” There’s been none. I like kids. I think they’re great when they’re other people’s, but I’ve just never wanted that. So I have a lot of flexibility in that, but again, that was an intentional decision about creating a life that I wanted, where I wasn’t going to listen to what every fucker on the planet had to say about the life that I want to lead. I know so many people, and you can say that I don’t know what your opinion on this is, but I know SO many people that either got married, took a job, had kids because of someone else’s opinion. You guys there were 10 years of my life I lived playing professional golf or chasing a television career in the golf industry because of what other people think. No one pressured me to do it, but the situation around me was, “You’ll be happy. You’ll be successful. You’ll make money. Your life’s going to be made if you fucking chase this.”  And I bought into the story that that’s where my happiness was going to come from. I was fucking miserable most of the time chasing the LPGA Tour. Miserable! I had zero desire to play professional golf. I was chasing something that I thought was coming at the end of that. That was never my dream.  And how many people get married because, oh, well fuck. You’re 25. You’re 30. You’re supposed to be married. What’s wrong with you? Why aren’t you going to do that? Or how many people have children because that’s what you’re supposed to do?  At some point in time, you have to say, this is your life. This is your life. You only get one kick at the can, folks. And I think that that is one of the saddest things ever. And the thing that holds so many people back in this world is the fact that we don’t realize this time here is so, so short.  I don’t know what age you are, but don’t you remember when your parents were telling you like, “Oh, the older you get, the faster time goes” and you used to think, “Oh my God, this year is taking like 50 years.” Well, as I’m getting older, I’m only 38. But my God! The last year, I’m like, Holy fuck did COVID not just happen? And now we’re like a year and right, time flies, you don’t have all the time in the world to do all the things that you want to do.  If I died tomorrow, my husband and I were talking about this while we were away in Phoenix, intentionally creating a life that we enjoy. We went away for three days and we came home and while we were out there, I was like, “Hey, if you died tomorrow, would you have any regrets?” And he didn’t say that he had any regrets, but he said, “I probably would have done a lot more.” And that’s totally a typical quote, right? I don’t know who said it, but it was like, you nerve die regretting the things that you do, you usually regret the things that you didn’t do. I never want to regret my life.  I had such a problem before doing all of the things that I  thought I was supposed to do. And now I only want to do things that light me up. And what happens when I do things that light me up is oh, my God. They ended up being really, really successful.  If I’m chasing something that’s hard and I’m chasing something that’s miserable and I’m living for a Friday and I think there’s only one week a year that I’m allowed to enjoy my life when that’s vacation. That’s not life. That is literally not life. That was not what we were put here to do. You were put here to have this amazing, purposeful, passionate, profitable, blessed life. And when you follow the thing that’s in your soul, when you live a life that you actually enjoy and you’re not living for a vacation and you’re not living for a weekend, you’re literally living life to love the process and love what you get to do on a daily basis – that’s why you’re here and watch what will happen when you do that.  Not only will you be fucking way more happy, you’ll probably be a lot more successful. I believe from the bottom of my soul, that when you’re doing the thing you were put on this planet to do, which news flash, every human being was put here for a purpose and a reason. If you have a heartbeat, you have a purpose. Hello, come on.  And I know not enough people believe that, but obviously that’s the reason why I’ll wake up with this much passion is because that’s what I get to help people figure out. I get to help people figure out their purpose and their passion, what they love. And then what happens behind that is the success, the abundance, because you’re living in your purpose, you’re blessing others, you too, are blessed. It’s like the law of the fucking universe guys. I believe it like the sky is blue, like water is wet. Come on. It’s so simple once you actually start living in it. And I’m not saying this is easy. None of this is easy, but fuck, is it worth it? You guys, it is so, so worth it. So what are you doing today to create a life that you don’t need vacation from?  Now don’t get me wrong. I love me a vacation. I love me a sandy beach. I love me some warm ass weather. I am one of very many, actually very many Canadians that absolutely hate the cold. Why do a lot of people live there? I have no idea, but what are you doing today to create a life that you don’t live for the vacation? The vacations are nice, don’t get me wrong, but you want to go on vacation, enjoy that moment in time and then be able to come home and enjoy this moment in time. I don’t know if many people will believe this, but I 100%, with every ounce of my body, I enjoy my meals at home just as much as I enjoy my five-star restaurant meals. Not every single time, but overall, right? Overall, I enjoy my life. I enjoy waking up at 4:30. I enjoy my clients. I enjoy the hard moments. I enjoy going for a walk. I enjoy working out (most days.) I enjoy going to bed at 8:00. My husband is always like, “We’re such losers. I can’t believe we’re in bed at 8:00.” I was like, “You can speak for yourself. What are you talking about? This is like my absolute goal in life is to be asleep by 8:00. What are you talking about?” That is what the goal is guys. And what happens when you are living in that? What happens when you are truly living a life that you don’t need vacation from? Oh, my gosh, the abundance is there. The abundance is there.  So how do you figure that out? You figure out what makes you act like a fool like me. You know, I’m recording this at like 7:00 in the morning in my house where I literally have veins popping from my neck because I’m like, fuck, I get to do this. I literally, I pinch myself. I literally get to do this and get paid and bless others. Like what in the hell? We live in such a miraculous time, even though COVID is so fucked and our world seems so jacked up right now. Now I’m literally recording a podcast that is going to be sent out to hundreds, if not thousands and perhaps more and more over the years where I get to bless other people. And in turn I get paid for it. And in turn, it makes my soul sing. What the hell?  Can we boil that fucking down guys? Like that is what life is. My husband and I were having that chat. If I died tomorrow, I would be so sad because I feel like I have so much left that I want to do on the planet. But I’ll tell you, I feel so blessed that if my time was up tomorrow, the last five, ten years, I’ve been living so much more in alignment, so much more in my purpose, blessing others, being blessed. It is work. It takes intention to not be the mundane. It takes intention to not wake up and be pissed at life, but it all starts with one decision after another decision after another decision and sure enough, you decide that it is your turn. You decide that you can live a life that you actually really fucking love, 80% of the time.  Fuck. I’ll take 80%, right? 80% of the time I’m living life that I actually love. 20% of the time, I just want to cry, run away and go drink margaritas, right? But that’s okay, that’s what life is for because I know when I have a bad day, I know that a good day is coming. I know that when I have a really bad day, it makes me appreciate the really great days, right? You guys, be very intentional about the life that you’re living right now. Be very intentional to create a life that you are excited for. Not that anyone else is excited for, but you’re excited for. What lights your soul on fire? What do you need to do today to make sure tomorrow’s a better day? What do you need to add to your life that not only blesses your life, but blesses others? Because when we’re a blessing, when we’re helping other people, Oh my God, life is so good. Life is so good.  This is nothing about me. This is not about me. The minute I start making this about me is when I get stuck. Today’s podcast, if I didn’t want to do it, if I wanted to be all selfish this morning and be like, ah, I don’t feel like I don’t want to do it. This isn’t – no, no, no, no.  When I put those posts out about creating a life that I didn’t need a vacation from, I saw people make comments, send me messages. Holy shit. That’s the goal. Right? I’m like then I needed to talk about it. How do we do that? How do I tell other people that yeah, you guys, this can exist? And there’s no difference between me and you. None. There’s no difference between me and you.  And I know that some of you are sitting at home or listening to this in your car, or perhaps on a walk or at the gym or wherever it is. I promise you the only difference is first of all, I made a decision. Then I started taking action. Then I had to have faith. Then I had to keep going when it got really fucking hard. And you guys, it’s hard all the time. If you’re sitting there thinking, it’s not hard for me, you’re out of your freaking mind. I have just as many problems as you have. Perhaps you have more, perhaps you have less, but what’s your excuse if you have less?  It’s just intention. It’s what you want. I wanted 10 years ago when I really dove into self-development, where I was a freaking hot mess before that. And I said, enough’s enough. I just really wanted to make a change. I just really wanted to not be miserable and not think that the one vacation or the Friday was the only thing that was going to make me happy or when my day was over and I was done. There were days that I wanted to go away. I think about that now and it makes me tear up. There were days that I wished away. I wanted to wake up and I wanted the day to be over. What used to be a wish is now a nightmare. And I want you to hear that. What used to be a wish is now a nightmare. And I’ve never actually thought about that before, until I was thinking about it right now. See, that’s the reason why we do these podcasts. Hopefully it’ll bless you, but it’s a blessing to me as well. Right?  I promise you, there were days I just wanted to lay on the couch or I just wanted the day to go away. Or I just wanted someone to not talk to me about how I was sucking at golf or how I didn’t get the contract or whatever. Because it was all about what everyone else wanted. It wasn’t about what I wanted. And now I wake up at 4:30 in the morning because I’m like, fuck, there’s so much I want to accomplish. And now let’s be real. I’m not going to be the bullshitter who’s going to tell you that like every fucking day I feel this way, but 80% of the time, I honestly feel this way. I really honestly do. You know, I really do. Some days suck, but some days, most days are really, really good. And I’m really fortunate for these days. And it started by a decision. It started by not listening to everyone else’s shit. There wasn’t anyone on the internet who told me that this was my purpose. I started hiring coaches. I started reading books. I started trusting my gut. I started hanging out with the right people. I started thinking about what sets my soul on fire. I was super competitive. That’s why I loved golf so much. Because I was so competitive. It was like this drive in me and I still am so fucking competitive. It’s what motivates me for everything. But at the end of the day, it was the passion of serving others. It was the passion of like, Oh my God, I can help another human being get from where I was to where I am now. Oh my God. No wonder I wake up at 4:00 in the morning. That’s exactly what I want to do. Every freaking day. How can I be my best self today? And I know even though I’m 38 and that’s pretty damn young, God, that’s really old in another form or fashion too, right? Like dear Lord, I’m 38 shit. I’m going to be 39 this year. 40 you’re halfway to your freaking death bed. No, like whatever, but that’s the whole thing though, guys, is that life is not forever. And I have to listen to my gut. I have to do the thing that sets my soul on fire. And what sets me on fire is not always, what’s going to set you on fire, but you’ve got to figure that out and you got to tune out the bullshit. You got to tune out what everyone else fucking tells you to do. If I would have been told that I had to get married at 25, had kids by 28, I would never be where I am today, where I am literally on fire at 7:00 in the morning, veins popping from my neck because I love what I get to fucking do on a daily basis. I had to trust myself. I had to listen to my soul. I had to get quiet. I had to start surrounding myself with people who thought this way. This is what you need to do. You need to get quiet. You need to figure out the thing that’s going to set your soul on fire that you want to do for the rest of your life. And you know what? You can pivot. You can change, but you can’t quit when it gets fucking hard and fall back into your old patterns, because guess what? You’re going to be living for that friggin vacation again. You’re going to be living for Friday and you’re going to be dreading the Monday and I promise you waking up on a Monday morning and being excited about the week is awesome. Coming home from vacation, which by the way, I fucking enjoyed the hell out of, but when I get to come home, I’m not pissed about it because I know that I’m going home to a life in which I created.  So I hope this inspires you today to get off your ass, do the thing that is on your soul. Don’t fucking quit and quit pretending that the vacation is the one thing that you have to look forward to and quit dreading the freaking Monday. Monday could be the best day of the week and all it takes is you deciding that.