Things to Light Your Ass on Fire
In this episode:
Success coach and former professional golfer, Christina Lecuyer talks about ten things everyone can do to light a fire under their ass and accomplish any goal they set out to. Pulling from her own past experiences, and these 10 tenets, Christina offers hilarious and poignant advice on never giving up, finding your why and listening to that still small voice inside.
Christina Lecuyer’s Bio:
Christina Lecuyer is a former Professional Golfer, a three-time reality television competitor, Confidence + Mindset Coach, Motivational Speaker, and Founder of Women with C.L.A.S.S. Mastermind, as well as Decide It’s Your Turn: Women’s Weekend. Christina’s mission in life is to empower people to fully live in their purpose, confidently and successfully!
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Full Episode Transcript:
Hey, y’all! Welcome back to Decide It’s Your Turn podcast. Today’s podcast is going to be a take on an Instagram post that I did last year that was probably one of my most engaged with posts. Yes, I was in a bathing suit… so that definitely probably helps. Which is so funny because sometimes I post the photos that are probably going to be the most engaged with with the content that everyone needs to know the most. Yes, I’m like sneaky as hell like that. Because I actually believe that I really want someone to look at the post and read it as opposed to just being like “Oh, look at her in a bathing suit”. And I looked pretty good in that bathing suit. You know, like, I gotta I gotta admit, I look pretty good in that photo. But the reason why I did it is because I really wanted people to engage with this post. I really wanted people to see what I had to say about “The Nine Things”. I called it “The Nine Things To Remember That Is Going To Set Your Ass on Fire to Accomplish a Goal.” And it worked! It was like my most engaged with posts last year and so I wanted to do a podcast on it because I truly do believe the things that I said in that post absolutely 100% have gotten me to where I am in the last few years. And I wanted to share that advice today. So today’s podcast is all about the things that I have been doing that have set my ass on fire to accomplish shit that I want to accomplish. You guys know now, I am am extremely passionate human being. I am an extremely passionate human being about goals that I have in my life and what I am here to do and that is to just pump people up and allow them to live so confidently in their purpose. I have not always been this way. But over the years, over the past 10 years, I’ve been training myself and hundreds of my clients to do the exact same thing because I truly believe time is the most valuable asset on the planet and every day you are losing some of it. So here are the nine things that I believe have gotten me to where I am and continue to get me to where I want to go. So number one is, I 100% believe with every ounce in my body, I will never fail if I don’t quit. So remember that you will not fail if you don’t quit. There’s no such thing as failure. It’s all a lesson, you do something, you figure out whether you liked it, or you didn’t and then you pivot and do the next thing but quitting is not an option for me. I can all the time say that this no longer feels in alignment, and I’m going to do something different. But I’m never going to give up I’m never going to quit. So that’s number one: never quit. Number Two: find all the help. Use all the help you can get you guys we live
in one of the most beautiful times in the world where Google is in existence. Like literally Google, you can google anything. You can literally watch every YouTube video under the sun to learn anything that you want to learn on this planet. Hire help. There is help everywhere someone has done something that you want to do before so hire them find help to get to where you want to go. Butnabove all, finding the help the number one thing I will say is trust your gut. Trust yourself. Trust that small still voice. I have asked for a lot of help in my life. I’ve googled a lot of things in my life, but overall I know I know the answer within myself. If something doesn’t feel in alignment, whether it’s coming from an extremely successful person who’s already done the thing but it doesn’t feel good to me. Then I trust myself above all else. Above all else, I trust the small still voice inside of myself. No matter what sometimes that voice is a scared voice and you have to learn over the years you have to learn is that scared or is that a true like small still voice that saying this is completely out of alignment.
The more you listen to yourself, the more you take action, the more you will know if that is completely out of alignment, or if it’s just scary and you have to do it anyways. I also believe the next thing. Number three, you can never take criticism to heart from those who are not in the fire with you. I truly believe that that is so important. If there is someone outside of what I’m trying to do, whether it be in the coaching arena whether it would have been in the golf arena, whatever it is, if there is someone outside of my circle who has never done the thing I am trying to do, why in God’s name, do I take their criticism? They have no idea. They don’t get an opinion. If you are not in the fire with me, you do not get an opinion. 100%. There’s a million people that will criticize what I’m doing all day long. Telling me I’m doing it wrong.. Telling me, I have no business what I’m doing. But for those who are in the ring with you, oh my gosh, it’s usually very random that a person who has busted their ass and done the things that you’ve done and stepped into the fire will criticize you because they know how hard it is. So outside criticism, you guys, if they’re not in the fire with you, they don’t get an opinion. Honestly, another thing. Number four. Number four, is, remember, it may not have happened yet. I think this is very important to remember, it may not have happened yet. The thing is, so many of us get stuck in saying, “Well, it hasn’t happened, it hasn’t happened.” It hasn’t happened… yet. Keep going go back to number one never quit and remember, you will get to the yet. It will happen 100%. I have faith that it will happen for you. Where you’re going where you want to
go, I promise you, you guys, it’s happening for you. It may not look anything from what you thought it was going to look like, but I promise you, it may not have happened yet. Keep going number that was number four. Number five, If you want different in this life, you guys, you have to choose different. We all know that saying that, like the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and over and expecting a different result, righ?. So you have to choose different if you want different. And so many of us are afraid to do that. So many people are afraid to do something different. My husband’s saying is “We do hard things”. And a lot of times when you want something different, you’re going to have to choose something different. And sometimes that’s going to be really hard. So number six: who you surround yourself with matters. You guys, I am going to hit home on this. I hit on this all the time with my clients. I hit on this with myself. Who am I surrounding myself with? Who is bringing value to my life every day? And not just value who is bringing my life down,. You know, it’s a very simple analogy of, you know, if you want to lose 10 pounds, and you’re surrounding yourself with people who sit on the couch, don’t work out, eat horrible, completely unmotivated to do so it’s gonna be a lot harder to lose those 10 pounds. Now if you’re surrounding yourself with people who are like, “Alright, we’re going for a walk. I’ll see you in the morning. We’re going for a run, or what are the gym, we’re going to do this thing. Or, you know what, like, I know we’re not like, we’re only gonna have one glass of wine tonight. We’re not gonna have a bottle and we’re not gonna have dessert. We’re not going to eat, you know, a whole entire pizza. Those people that you’re surrounding yourself with, those are who you become like that, you know, that isn’t my, it isn’t something that I thought of, but the five people that you surround yourself with are those which you will become like. And people always ask, Well, you know, what, if it’s family? Or what if it’s people at the office? Well, what can you do to put up some good boundaries? What can you do to eliminate the time that you’re spending around these people? What can you do to be using the time that you’re not around these people to fill yourself up with highly motivated people? Is it listening to a podcast? Is it you know, literally saying no to things not going out and hanging out with these people at all points in time? You guys, that’s really important. And so many people just think that this is so simple and so easy. But it takes a lot of guts sometimes to be like, “I’m sorry, this is no longer in alignment with me.” You know, one thing that people come to me for all the time is a like minded group of people. A lot of my mastermind groups, people always say “I need friends, I need to find people
that think like me want to have a life like I want. Dream like me, tell me it’s possible. And you guys, you’re right, you’re absolutely right. It is hard to find those people unless you are very intentional about getting around those people. Whether that be joining a mastermind group, whether that be going to, you know, some sort of conference or whatever it may be right. But you have to be intentional about that. It’s going to be very random that you find five women or who are so high vibe or five guys that are just like so high vibrational that just happened to be you’re in your neighborhood or go to school with your kids.
Man, can it happen? I’m sure but it doesn’t happen all that often. And sometimes you just have to be so intentional about who you’re surrounding yourself with and where you’re spending your time. I think that this is also very important to is the fact that like at the end of the day, you sometimes have to be alone. For a little while, you have to be kind of sad. And by yourself sometimes, when you’re switching your life, when you’re making big decisions to change your life, a lot of times you’re going to be alone for a while, you’re going to have to cut out people who are no longer serving you.
You know, I’ve always said this, that I would rather lock myself in a dark room then go for a wine with women who want to bitch and moan about their lives and not take action and complain about their husbands and you know talk about the neighbors. That’s just… I had to do that for a long period of time is cut out people who were no longer serving me. And I also believe when you do that, you tell the universe, “Oh, hey, guess what? I’m dead serious. I need some high vibrational people coming into my life.” And when you start acting like that person, trust me, you attract those people. There is no one that is so low vibe that like wants to just bitch and moan and complain all day that wants to be surrounded by me. Like, they have no desire for me in their lives, because they’re like, “Oh, that’s totally not in alignment with me. You’re like, way too high vibe. I like to bitch and moan”. It’s true. And the opposite is true as well. Like people who like my energy, people who want to think like me have a life like me, are attracted to me. So those are the type of people that I want to be around. So who you surround yourself with matters. Okay, number seven, you guys. Fail. Failure is not a bad thing. How many of you have been told that failure is the worst thing for you? The worst thing in the world. No one wants to fail. I have people I know, to this day that think failure is the worst thing ever. I failed once. I’m a failure. You’re not a failure. The
thing that you did didn’t work out exactly like the way you had planned. Okay, perfect. Do it again. And then stand up, fail, do it again. Fail, learn, fail, learn. It’s not a failure. It’s a learning experience. We’ve just been told that failure is such a negative thing in this world and that’s complete bullshit. There’s not one successful person in this whole entire world that hasn’t done something magically perfect the very first time and it turned out to be an absolute success and they didn’t fall on their ass. We just see at the very end, you guys just see the storybook at the end of what actually came from it like oh! overnight success. Fuck you! You didn’t see the 20 years that that that person put into it. You didn’t see that person up all night failing time and time again being rejected time and time again, losing their money time and time again. You guys, we have to get over this thing called failure. It’s not failure. It’s like a learning experience. Keep going. Do something, learn fail, learn, fail, whatever you want to call it. Do something. Take the lesson. Do the another thing. How many of you stop yourself from doing something? I have had a family member tell me “Well, I’m never doing that again. I can’t learn another lesson. I’ve learned too many lessons in life. I’ve just I can’t afford to learn another lesson.” I’m just so confused. What do you mean you can’t afford to learn another lesson. So what are you going to do? Do nothing? Come on? That’s not the way the world works, folks. That’s a beautiful thing. You get to take both from it. You get to learn a lesson from it. Amazing. Don’t do that exact same thing. What can you do do different next tim. Doesn’t mean that you don’t do anything. Why can’t do anything ever again, because I can’t afford to learn another lesson. No, no, this is life. This is a lesson the whole entire thing is a lesson. Life is just a beautiful lesson we learn we take things we grow, we figure out what we want to do, we figure out what’s not in alignment, and we keep moving forward. You know, everything is a lesson and nothing is truly a failure unless you choose that to be unless you decide that that’s a failure and you’re going to quit and going back to number one is never quit. So number eight, number eight on what sets your soul on fire to get your ass going to decide to accomplish the goals is “know your why”. It may be one of the things that keeps you going when you’re trying to accomplish something forever. Your why is what’s going to keep you going when it gets so hard. Your why is going to what your y is going to be what keeps you going when it is so hard. That person who literally knows that they want to do this thing in their life. Like for instance myself. I love what I get to do and you guys some days, it is really hard, especially in the beginning of building my business where I wasn’t sure I was going to succeed. Every time I did something I felt
like I got two steps forward three steps back. I wanted to quit 1000 times. But my why… the why I’m doing this because my life is 180 degrees different from where I was 10,12 years ago, where I was so lost and so broken and not feeling
like I had a purpose and I was worthy and all the things. My why now for helping people step into their greatness, step into their purpose. My why is what keeps me going when life is really hard when my business was really hard when everything is getting kicked in the teeth. When I feel like no one understands. I feel like my team is mad. I feel like I’ve lost tons of money. I feel like, I just want to run away from my from my life, which I’ve said before. None of this is easy. But my why brings me back. I know for a fact if there is one other human being that I can help lean into their purpose, believe in themselves, gain the confidence to do the thing that they were meant to do on this planet and enjoy the journey. That is my why. That is what keeps me going and that is what sets my ass on fire to accomplish my goals.
And last but not least number 10. You guys, I believe it like you know the sky is blue. Like money is green, like water is wet. You have to have faith. You have to have faith of something greater than yourself. Y’all know by now that I believe that that’s God. I believe there is a bigger plan for me. I have to. I have to believe that there’s something God, source universe, doorknob, whatever you believe. You have to believe that there’s something bigger than you in this world that keeps you going. That is the one thing. Hope. Faith… that will keep you going no matter what. You have to believe it’s happening for you. You have to believe that there is something some one some guidance in this world that is bigger and greater than you. If you follow me on social media, you guys see I find pennies like every day, I see triple numbers every day. And to me, that is just a sign from the universe, God’s source that “It’s okay, I got you. It’s okay. I know that today is a hard day or I know today is a beautiful day” I you guys, I don’t know if anyone has ever heard this analogy, but it’s the God on the shelf analogy. A lot of people take God and put him on the shelf when things are really bad. Like, “Oh god, things are really shitty right now. I’m putting God on the shelf. I don’t need God. Then when things are really good. A lot of people are like putting God on the shelf. Right? Like God, if everything’s going really well, I can put God on the shelf. No, no, that’s the thing, guys, you need the faith. You need to believe in something bigger than yourself. So when things are going good, you need to believe in something bigger than yourself. When things are going bad, you need to believe in something bigger than yourself. Like it’s not like put it on the shelf when
things are good. Or put it on the shelf when things are bad. And that’s what so many people do. Right? Like you think you don’t need it when you actually do need it. Or when things are going good. You believe they’re going good because without the thing. But that’s not the case. We need it all the time. You have to have faith in something bigger than yourself. So when things are going really really well you know that it’s not just you and things are going really really bad, you know that you’re going to be held and it’s going to turn out exactly as it should. Those ten things or nine things i don’t know I may have confused the numbers but you get it right? Those things, If you go back through those things. Number one: never quit. Number two: Find help. Trust your gut. Listen to that small still voice. Number three: Remember it may not have happened yet. Keep going. Number four: For those who are criticizing you that are not in the fire, they do not get an opinion. I don’t even know I’m horrible with numbers you guys. Number five: If you want different, choose different. Number six: who you surround yourself with matters. It is so important. It matters. Number seven: Fail. Learn. Fail. Learn. It’s not a failure. It’s only a failure if you don’t learn something from it. Number eight: know your why. Know the reason why you’re doing the thing that you’re doing because that will keep you going. That will keep that fire set under your ass to keep going to accomplish those goals. And last but not least, you must have faith in something bigger than yourself. You guys I hope today’s episode helped you if you have any questions, reach out! I’d love to know what else do you guys want to know on this podcast? I am absolutely obsessed that I get to do this now. I cannot believe I put it off for so long. Send me a message on Instagram DM us. Reply in the in the show notes is our emails. You guys I’m so excited that I get to do this. This is the reason this is what sets my soul on fire. It is my why. You are my why and I hope you loved today’s show.